You may question whether you are able to be a good parent. Can you afford it? Will your relationship cope? Will you and your baby like each other?  This resource asks questions for women with a partner. It offers some suggestions for questions you might ask yourselves:

• Why do we want to have a baby?

• Does it feel too soon or too late?

• How do we think a baby will affect our relationship?

• Can we afford a child?

• How will we manage financially?

• How will a baby affect our jobs or career?

• When would we want to return to work?  Who will return to work? Full or part-time?

• Can we cope with extra responsibility?

• How will a baby affect our lifestyle and freedom, now and in the future?

• How do we think a baby will enrich our lives?

• Do we feel comfortable with each other’s values and attitudes to parenting?

• Are there any experiences we’ve had that may affect our parenting?

It is not unusual to be confused about the decision to have children, and it’s not uncommon for couples to find the issue difficult to resolve.